Why Do We Submit??

[lily27]

Do to some recent personal events, I have been doing a bit of soul searching. I am a strong believer in triumph coming from hardship, and have been using the opportunity to learn more about myself.

My main meditation point has been my submission. All of the nuts and bolts...why, how, when, with whom...etc. There are several questions I have been trying to come up with answers to (if answers even exist for them), and would love to hear others' experiences.

1. Why do you submit? What is the drive? What is the reward?

2. How did you ever start down this path? Any bumps along the way?

3. If your submissive side of your personality is different than your "everyday" self, how do you reconcile the two? How do you switch back and forth? What is your trigger for getting into "sub mode?"

4. Anything you dislike about it? Anything you would rather change?

5. Does any of the above change based on whether or not you have a current partner?

I understand these are all incredibly weighty questions, so please feel free to answer as many or as few as you wish. I am really just hoping to spark a conversation on the subject.

Although I put this in the "questions for a sub" section, I encourage the Doms to contribute as well.

Thanks everyone!