I submit to a very nice Switch. I can tell when he needs me to top, sometimes he just asks.

Do you ever find that when you're in a certain mood determines which role you'd rather be in?

I find that if I'm in a good, upbeat mood I'm much better at being a Top. I don't initiate being the Top, but I can get into the frame of mind when I'm feeling fine. I can command as much as he wants/needs me to.

If I'm very sad, upset, frustrated...I want him to Command, I need him to. There is no energy there for me to be in charge. I can do as I'm told, serve, be disciplined. I just can't Top.

Wondering if any of you understand the state of emotions coinciding with which role you play? If there is a connection?