Sindra

As it states in my profile, I am happily married to my high school sweetheart. The man of my dreams.
He has been very understanding of my sexual appetites. First I wanted to try a threesome with another woman... we did that a few times, it was a roaring success. Then I became interested in BDSM when one of those girls smacked me on the ass. I was surprised to find that it turned me on, incredibly so.

So, over the past 10 years or so I have been exploring BDSM with my hubby... slowly. Almost painfully slowly. I can count the number of times he has tied me up on one hand. He's blind folded me twice. He doesn't have any problem with calling me names/dirty talk. He'll put his hand over my mouth, which I LOVE. And he's quite good at spankings. Whether it's with his overly large hands, the riding crop, ruler or his belt. (The riding crop was a Christmas gift last year. We've used it three times, each time at my request.)

There are multiple problems though. The first of which is I have to tell him I want these things... each and every time. I cannot get him to understand that I want them ALL the time.
I want to explore other areas of the lifestlye and he doesn't. For example; I bought myself a lovely pair of nipple clamps for my birthday. He refuses to put them on me. He says I should put them on myself, he doesn't want to hurt me. I told him that it loses most of it's appeal that way, I want it to hurt, and I can always use my safeword.
He says it's "Escalation" and he's afraid that I'll want to try things that we have both agreed are out of the question. But I don't think my requests are that extreme and they aren't any of the things we agreed were off limits. I'd like to be tied down, completely spread & at his mercy. I like to be teased, orgasm control/denial, that sort of thing. I want to try candle wax... etc. I have found fiction that I enjoy reading that describes, in detail, the kinds of things I'd like to experience. He refuses to read it.

It also seems like I want more sex than he does. I'm not saying that I want it all day, every day. But at least every-other day. Only problem with me is, when I get started, I'm not really satisfied until I have either felt pain along with pleasure OR I've cum at least 5 or 6 times. (Which isn't that difficult with me.)

Like this morning, he woke me up by pinching my nipples. Then he licked, sucked and bit them until I was in a frenzy. He fingered me until I came. (He doesn't get that I want to be teased. To him, it's all about the Orgasm.) Then he climbed on top and within a dozen thrusts he was done. Then he got up, got me a towel and said "Come on, get up." Then he left the room. And left me wanting more...

What's wrong with me?