Interesting Meeting

Let me start with a question:

Have you ever met someone with the same interest in BDSM as you...randomly?

I guess this question could be applied to anything, but for some reason it jumps out to me when it comes to this topic in particular. Perhaps because I don't think our community is that widespread -- Well, until recently.

I was sitting in one of my lectures when a man sat down next to me, asking if I had baught my sandwich for him. Of course, I passed this off as a joke. Well, he demanded that I take out a piece of paper for him. I can tell you right now that his approach offended me slightly, the way he was simply demanding a piece instead of asking for one. I shrugged this off too, and joked that he should write on the cookie I gave him instead....I am not really sure how I found that funny at the time, but I did.

Anywho, I told him to rip a piece of paper out of my notebook, since I was pre-occupied with eating my cookie at the time. He began a game of tic-tac-toe, which I pretty much just ignored. I lost the game (due to my lack of interest in it) and he then stated that I owed him lunch. o.O....(<---That would be the exact look I gave him).

Anywho, we began corresponding through notes, and I said "You like the submissive types, don't cha?" Which began a whole conversation on BDSM.

So I suppose the moral of the story is the world really is a small place, after all.


:rolleyes:

I have met people I work with that have submissive or Dom tendencies, but no one that is out about being kinky like I am.

Only met one person that enjoyed asphyx, and that was not a lifestyle choice, just a sex activity for him.

in a word no, i have not met any one at random that shares my views om BDSM. i wish that i could. (at random or on purpose(other than you guys online here)

I met my husband in a place that had nothing to do with the lifestyle, where I was not submissive in any way, I was quite outspoken, and had a very sort of domineering persona. Somehow he saw past all that. I asked him about it once. He shrugged and said, "You know how some people say they have a gay-dar? Doms often have the equivalent for a compatible submissive." I knew if he could pick me out of that crowd, he was the one for me.

In the same place, after I'd met my husband, I was chatting with another guy. He claimed he knew nothing about the lifestyle (because I'd called him on being dominant), but expressed interest. He asked me, "So I could tell you to masturbate right now, and you'd have to do it?" I laughed my ass off. "Nope," I told him. He said he was confused, if I was submissive and he was dominant, why that wouldn't be the case.

I told him, "Just because I am submissive, does not mean that I am YOUR submissive. I'll give you the same courtesy I would extend to any of my friends, but that kind of respect has to be earned. I'm not just here for the world to walk all over."

I was pretty proud of myself. The last bit was something I was starting to believe.

It's interesting how we all react so differently to interactions. I would've felt so uncomfortable in the situation above. Variety is the spice of life and all that!

I guess the part is that I am known by many that I have never met. I do get recognized from time to time but that is okay with me. I also do have a sub radar too, but then I had too since when I started it was very taboo

I overheard a couple in a bookstore... she was asking to be "tied up tonight."

I almost said something and maybe that was why I was allowed to overhear them... but alas, did not. An opportunity I'd not likely pass up again in the future.

Other than that... no. At least not yet.

I remember e-mailing a friend of mine and quoting somebody's off hand remark I'd read in a paper about seeing "a Barbie doll in black corset hanging over a bar counter in Tennessee, upside down, ball gagged and her hands bound behind her back --- I have never seen that model here at home /in Sweden/" This girl buddy who got the mail was thrilled about the image, and in talking about it the next day we more or less admitted we were both turned on by this kind of damsel-in-distress stuff. Didn't go as far as either of us actually saying it went into our wishes for r/l sex though, I figure she could be turned on by being tied up - or by seeing someone else tied up in bed - but I haven't brought it up with her again. She looks great, I like her a lot and being tied up by her would have been hugely erotic (i once admitted to her that my feelings for her crossed over into love sometimes, but we both felt we should keep it at friendship level; she was very gentle about this).

There are others whom I am open with, but with them it took longer time to broach the subject.

is how i found out S1 was in the lifestyle as well LOL.
the story of how we met etc etc is over in whose who

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Originally Posted by delish

In the same place, after I'd met my husband, I was chatting with another guy. He claimed he knew nothing about the lifestyle (because I'd called him on being dominant), but expressed interest. He asked me, "So I could tell you to masturbate right now, and you'd have to do it?" I laughed my ass off. "Nope," I told him. He said he was confused, if I was submissive and he was dominant, why that wouldn't be the case.

I told him, "Just because I am submissive, does not mean that I am YOUR submissive. I'll give you the same courtesy I would extend to any of my friends, but that kind of respect has to be earned. I'm not just here for the world to walk all over."

I was pretty proud of myself. The last bit was something I was starting to believe.

It's interesting how we all react so differently to interactions. I would've felt so uncomfortable in the situation above. Variety is the spice of life and all that!

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This is rather close to what happened to me with this guy. While I believe he has potential, I don't agree with his views. He demanded respect right away, and I basically told him that I didn't know him, and that I was not HIS sub.

So I guess you can't really have all of it in one package (actually meeting a compatible Dom -- or sub, randomly, who actually knows what buttons to push). It'd make for a good story though :)

I truly understand this with all my heart, I get get ladies that have read my stuff and think they know me and that I will just know how to treat them. Some get upset when I remind them that I don't know them and that they don't really know who I am either.

With me I think you have a fair chance of judging right because I do put myself out there when I write but still take some time to know me and allow the same for yourself for me.

funtime37-"in a word no, i have not met any one at random that shares my views om BDSM. i wish that i could. (at random or on purpose(other than you guys online here)"

same here man