How can you tell??

Just had an interesting conversation in chat tonight and it got me thinking.

Is it easier for a Dom to help a vanilla to discover the sub in them self than it is for a sub to help a vanilla to find the Dom in them self? and why?

Also, for a single Dom or sub, how do you go about the process of figuring out if the person you may be interested in is into BDSM? Specifically, how would a Dom know if the person they are interested in is, or could ever be, a sub and how could a sub know if the person they are interested in is, or could ever Dom them?

I think there are probably many out there who are newer to the lifestyle and are curious about this, I know before I met Sir I wondered how I could ever know if a guy I was interested in could ever be what I needed, I was lucky Sir found me but there are many out there who are still looking and could benefit from some input.

The post of all posts for us that are new... I feel like finding someone in this world is the untimate game of chicken and egg... :) Thank you for the great post and I look forward to reading the replies. For me, I am innately submissive to some degree and I have become aware that my sublte and blatant sub behaviors bring out some dominating traits in certain people in my life. However, I will be silent now as I haven't explored this much more then in my own mind. :) GREAT post!! Thanks!!