First I should say that online relationships never worked for me - but I don't look down it it at all. In fact I always wondered why it just didn't bring the submissiveness out in me - or never for long.

I have been talking to a Dominant online and I like him, he's smart, nice, good head on his shoulders but lives way too far away to consider anything other than something online.
When he mentioned that he might want to ask me to be his online slave I first was quite flattered but hesitant. I remembered my attempts to be one of a few years back - and especially after having made some very intense real life experiences I didn't think it would work for me. And I valued him as someone interesting to talk to.

Then we got to talking about what an online bdsm relationship is and he said something really interesting:
To be a slave to an online Master may lack the physical control he can exert on her, but at the same time that trains and sharpens her commitment to being a slave. Because he/she has much more room to just don't obey or lie etc. If she is to be a good online slave she must be totally committed to that role.
That made me realize why it never worked for me. I'm not. Not committed to being a slave that is. In fact, I am still pretty conflicted about the whole thing and only recently accepted my submissive side as a part of me that is not worth fighting or suppressing.
But if I could change what I like, I think I might.
I am infinitely committed to a Master I love and when I was with my last Master, he hardly ever had reason to punish me because I, don't know, its almost physically impossible to disobey him, to disappoint him... So I figure I am commited to submitting to a special person, not to being a slave itself...

Any thoughts? How is this for you?