As some of you may know, I've recently gotten in touch with a certain someone after a 6-month hiatus. Things seem to be going well so far. However, I was somewhat shocked by the negativity this news garnered from my family and friends, which I now realize is why I shouldn't have discussed our personal issues per his request. My mother said it was like digging through my trash. I told her that maybe I made a mistake and wasn't ready to throw it out. My sister and brother-in-law seem to think I'm simply desperate to be with someone, anyone, even if it means going back to someone it didn't work out with before. I can assure you that I'm hardly desperate for attention since I know good and damn well that I can go to any bar, anywhere, or the dungeon and get picked up if that's what I want to do. A friend told me that exes are exes for a reason. I know this to be true. There were reasons...which I was having a very hard time remembering...but it's all coming back to me now.

I believe in second chances. I think most people deserve them. I believe there are some mistakes that are best not repeated, so forgiveness doesn't always equal forgetfulness. I also believe in personal accountability as well as personal growth. People do change. As one of my favorite singers of all time says, "Sometimes you just gotta go away to find what you left behind."

I'm curious as to how many of y'all have tried to reconnect with someone and what the outcome was. Were you able to change behavior patterns that were problems in the past or was it the same song, 2nd verse, a little bit faster and a little bit worse?