Why cant i keep my mouth shut???.....I fess up to..........everything.....
Im not looking to be punished......but wouldn't it be so much easier NOT to tell everything???
OK...am i the only one with this......telling the truth thing??
Why cant i keep my mouth shut???.....I fess up to..........everything.....
Im not looking to be punished......but wouldn't it be so much easier NOT to tell everything???
OK...am i the only one with this......telling the truth thing??
;-) No you are not...
Just too often I tell a truth I had better not told.... I do not do it because I want to be punished and not even because of a bad concience but just because it does not seem right to me to.. bend the truth or just not tell anything
;-) Sometimes it does me good, much more often it gets me into trouble . But who cares? I can live with that.
Thrall it is easier to tell the truth the whole truth .. no matter what.. cause as my grandma told me:
"one lie leads to another lie.... leads to another lie... which only leads to one big mess and you forget the first lie and then you get caught... and the punishment is even worse and no one trust you after that ..."
That being said.. i just simply tell the truth... am honest and will fess up and take my punishment with the best grace i can find...
my opinion anyways
hugs
snow
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
~Winston Churchill
Well i think honesty is the best policy... ive noticed i dig holes for myself all the time and get myself in trouble way to easily, but i think in the end Master appreciates it alot more that i have no need to not tell the truth.
Thrall.. I am with you on this..can't keep that mouth shut.. as some already have noticed.
Yeah...we NEVER ly..never ever...that's something other people do. And telling the thruth.. that is the noble, brave and honest thing to do.. That is what we tell people ....but ever so often we finish them off without mercy if they do so..
Still wonder why some people ly? I don't. Like you, I wonder why I still can't do it... well in fact I know why..and that doesn't make me feel better at all...
HHmm......well maybe its not so much.....telling the truth..... because i do that
It's might be more along the lines ........of immediate confession.....
no...i didn't do this or that....
or worse....i did do this or that.....
Immediate confession....that's what I do....why? I really don't know...I'm actually on punishment this weekend because of it. It's funny, I'm not even sure if Master would have noticed one of my wrongs (2 mistakes on Friday).
The second one was such a small tiny thing and I went and confessed it.
I am fairly new to this lifestyle and this is the first time I really felt the sting of my Master's disappointment in me...it made me cry...that's the worst punishment....
(thanks for listening also, I needed to get that off my chest....no one to talk to *sigh* )
Truth is power, even if it doesn't look so in the first place. By being honest, you earn respect from others and yourself. Honesty is what lets you get up each day and be at piece the person in the bathroom mirror, and it's the thing that lets you fall asleep with a smile after a hard days work. Being able to do that sometimes brings envy from others, but, in the long run, has them ask for advice and rely on you.
But anyone who has tried it out can confirm that being a honest person doesn't allow much leeway. Either you're honest, or you're not.
And then, there's the added benefit for a sub, that one often knows in advance that a specific question will be asked and answering truthfully will lead to oh so painfully sweet punishment
Furthermore, of course, a dishonest thrall would certainly not be the friendly, outspoken and charming person we all here have come to love.
Beyond your inner limits there lies Bliss...
well in general terms....with lying you have to remember every single you thing you have said to that person to keep the lies going and that can be draining and stressful. it also makes it difficult if you are lying about something and then something actually happens and you really need a friend to talk to but you are unable to because of your lies. telling the truth is less stressful and you can talk about anything without having to figure out what u have said before then.
honesty is important in a D/s relationship. if you aren't honest with your Dom/me and they do something it can be painful or it can injury you. Being a submissive I tend to rat myself out even if I don't mean to ..it is easier than having to tell them later.
Smiles...I am frequently "ovely honest" it is both a blessing and a curse. If I have learned anything from it, I have learned that life is best lived in a way in which you can continue to tell the truth about what you've done and the punishment if there is to be one will match the crime.
Sit down before fact as a little child, be prepared to give up every conceived notion, follow humbly wherever and whatever abysses nature leads, or you will learn nothing. ~Thomas Huxley
Sometimes I think that we have too much honesty and trust issues shoved down our throats, and no I am not saying they are not important, but just once I'd like to sneak in a few extra guilt free orgasms just because I felt like it.
Most of my infractions are minor and usually have reasonable explanations, so they are overlooked. If I continue to make the same mistakes constantly then I have a problem.
I will always tell on myself because what ever I did probably defeated the reasons I was supposed to be doing or not doing it in the first place.
Maybe that's why we tell the truth?
my owner allways seems to know when i am about to confess, lol
he says somthing about my posture betrays that i need permission to speak so i can beg for mercy for whatever it is ive done that day
,,,<<will tell a lie to lots of people, i am human, especially if its like something to avoid hurting someones feelings, like (no that skirt looks good on yu) etc
but for some reason, i can't lie to my owner
When love beckons to you, follow him,Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound thee
KAHLIL GIBRAN, The Prophet
There's lying and then there's lying... big picture? You can't possibly be truthful 100% of the time to 100% of the people. You CHOOSE who you are honest with 100% of the time, and everything & everyone else just has to take a backseat... it is what it is.
Some people choose to be 100% truthful with their partner, others with their kids, some with a best friend... at some level most feel some subconscious need to "confess" about everything they've "lied" about to others--so you pick someone to do this with.
That being said... a D/s Dominant is often a submissive's "person"--the one person they never lie to because they just aren't able. Is this a case of control? Nah, not really, imo. It's more a sense of wanting to be fully open & availible to the Dominant at all times--AND, somewhat the result of picking the Dominant as "that person" they will always tell the truth to.
Enough psychobabble, onto reality.
Does that mean a submissive should confess every little thing to their Dominant? Hell no. A Dominant, imo, expects a submissive to be able to use their judgement (within the rules, guidelines & lifestyle the Dominant has placed the submissive in) and know what the important things are to confess and what is just useless stuff that doesn't need to be brought up, wasting the time of the Dominant. It's all about logic: you can't confess your entire day of wrongdoings: it would take hrs. So you pick the things that are the best use of your Dominant's time to confess and let the rest lay...
Best rule of thumb? If it bothers you, talk about it. If it doesn't, move on. As always, KISS.
As someone who also grew up Catholic, i definitely understand the whole confession/guilt thing. I always laughed about "Catholic guilt", but without realizing it (until it seems to be too late), it appears to have taken hold and i can't quite shake it. That being said...
I rarely lie. I learned when i was very young that, with few exceptions, honesty is by far the best way to go about things. Now, for whatever reason, i find it very difficult to lie. I've found that being honest about screw-ups earns others' respect and trust because they know that you won't b.s. them about things, even if the blame lays with you.
As for the actual act of "confessing", i find it very freeing to unload everything - what i've done, what i haven't done, what i should've done, how i *really* feel about that bitch at work.Even if i know i'll get in trouble if i admit to failing to do/not do something, i feel like i need the punishment to move on with my life; i need someone else to absolve me of my "crimes" before i can let go of things. I think that even without being raised Catholic, i would be like this with respect to failure and confession. I feel very responsible for the happenings around me and carry that weight with me; i take it very seriously and personally when things don't happen as i think they should and i'm responsible for them. I feel like i'm letting the world at down. Being able to lay my shortcomings out and have someone else judge them and allocate punishment as necessary takes off a lot of the weight and definitely makes me feel better about my far-from-perfect self.
Life is a never-ending lesson in humility
there are lies and there are lies.
I do not think it is possible to go through a week, or even a day without a lie.
Self awareness is important for us all. I once did a little tally count on the number of lies and falsehoods I perpetrated in a day. Once I became sensitive to the process of catching myself telling lies and falsehoods I noticed just how many I told.
"I can honestly tell you that I do not lie." is impossible for any one to say once they get to know themselves.
Having said that, I could not help thinking as I read this thread..
Oh what a tangled web we weave
when first we practice to deceive.
Don't even know who wrote it, but it is so, so, so true
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Today I shall be witty, charming and elegant.
Or maybe I'll say "um" a lot and trip over things.
"Sentor Obama, I am not President Bush. You wanted to run against President Bush, you should have run four years ago." - McCain
oooh, i've asked myself this so many times! my biggest 'problem' though, altough it's not exactly a problem, it's more of an inner debate sort of thing, is when i say what i think, when i think it, why i think it. i've been told i overthink everything, and, well, he always laughs when i tell him everything but it creeps me out, because i don't analyse everything that happens inside my head to everybody.
on the other hand, i haven't connected my 'fessing up to everything' with religion, i never was raised as a religious person, i just think that by explaining everything [even when he knows it, because most of the time he knows what goes on inside my head], i won't have to pretend that something else is going on: it's much easier for me to say: half of me likes this because of this, this and this, and the other half feels like that because of that, that and that. thus, he can make his decisions taking into account both parts of my head.
i know, sounds weird, i'm not sure if it makes sense, but thank you thrall for this topic!
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