Punishments

[angelic.zest]

grrr i hate punishments, but i guess thats why they're called.."punishment" lol..because we dont liek them, nor do we want them to happen..
recently i had to send my toys *frowns* and will recieve them once i show im a good girl...
another one..acturally as im trying to type this i have to write an essay on "what happens to cunts who are disobedient"..yeah they write essays ...

[gagged_Louise]

grrr i hate punishments...

as im trying to type this i have to write an essay on "what happens to cunts who are disobedient"..yeah they right essays LOL..

You can expect some more punishment for confusing "right" with write

[angelic.zest]

You can expect some more punishment for confusing "right" with write

LOL..im soo confused lou!! ok im going to edit my post LOL..

[gagged_Louise]

Next time you misspell you'll have to listen to the Divine Punishment album by the amazing Diamanda Galas (a really frightening record, howls and strange hymns) I've seen her live with thundering volume and a strobe lights beam that blinked like a nuclear plant..

[Ozme52]

Be sure to write the right essay, it's on the subject of rites.

[fallenstar]

recently i had to send my toys *frowns* and will recieve them once i show im a good girl...

ahh!!! thats so.... that hits a sore spot, most assuredly. i empathize..all your toys sent away.....ugh so Not fun( i know punishment isn't meant to be fun, but still!!!!!!!)

[crazy_grrluk]

was going to reply to this but then I realised I had already answered lmao.

but I will add tho.....
there is nothing worse than the silent treatment. the see through you stares...shudders

[Gr1m'sGirl]

I really dislike having to sit in a corner and think, or write. I can't stand that!

Although I must admit, any form of silent treatment is the worst. Seeing the disappointment in his eyes, or hearing it in his voice.. -shudders-

[Iron_Lynx]

Be sure to write the right essay, it's on the subject of rites.

HaHa... clever.

[sub4utoo]

The worst punishment I have experienced and not only once but few times, is that of being ignored. Both physically and emotionally. I am someone who loves to cuddle and when I can't with the one I am with it hurts.

[Ozme52]

HaHa... clever.

[gagged_Louise]

I don't know if this qualifies as a punishment for not allowing a submissive to serve the cock - it turns out they didn't know each other - but a weird notice it is for sure. Just saw it in the paper:

Penis attack on fast-food joint

A young woman has been sentenced to 80 unit fines (graded to her income) plus damages, for assaulting a man inside a hot dogs joint in Skovde /Sweden/. One night in March the 22-year old lady approached the man, whom she didn't know, and asked him several times if he wanted oral sex. When he declined and turned away, she knelt, pulled down his pants and bit him in his cock. The woman says she can't remember any of this...

[dragonstone]

I would like to say thank you for all the wonderful ideas you all have giving me I really like the idea of the silent punishment... I am pretty new at this I only been a dominate for about two and half years now... So , I am looking for suggestion and ideas on how to punishment my sub would be helpful...

I can however tell you from experience you really have to know what your sub likes and doesn't like... For example my sub hates writing lines, essays, ect and the thing she likes [besides making me happy] is to be able to watch her programs....

[Sir_Russell]

A few punishments more,
Having her walk directly behind me with eyes down not allowed to touch me in any way, since a tenet of mine is that she is to walk with me holding my arm, hand or having physical contact with me at all times that we walk in public. That one seems to kill.

Another is too make her wear very old very housewifish clothes that will make her look and feel like a run of the mill nothing instead of a loved sub/slave. It will show her what she doesn't want to be.

These with the others posted here should work but again know what she hates and use those too.

[Wedjat]

Just found this thread and I guess I have a couple of pennies to toss in too. Although I've new to this whole lifestyle (mostly theory for me at the moment : ) Delia's last comment made me think of something that's a pet peeve of mine that sort of applies here, I think. When she said that punishment should not further worsen the situation it reminded me of a recent scene witnessed in a store - where a (very young) father of a very young child smacked the kid on the rump because he was crying! How does hitting an already crying child help the matter? It was all I could do to not say something, and I was too far away at the time. The reason the child was crying? He couldn't keep up with the dad, who was holding his hand and half dragging the poor little guy! Just seems to me that, had the dad been aware that the problem was really that the child couldn't possibly walk as fast - in a diaper and with legs considerably shorter than his - he would have realized how ignorant and unobservant his reaction was, and how totally ineffective. I know this may seem way off topic, but I'm shooting for an analogy here. : )
I do like some of the things the Doms here have said (Thank you Sir Russell, among others )- that one really needs to know the sub and that the punishments don't have to be dire (quite a relief for this newbie, actually! : ) I think the silent treatment would work really well for subs, who, if like me, like to please people as part of their basic nature.

Delia pointed out that public humiliation wouldn't work for everyone too - I know it would probably have me blubbering in the car, but some people might like it. Thanks for listening (reading?)

[annie]

Just found this thread and I guess I have a couple of pennies to toss in too. Although I've new to this whole lifestyle (mostly theory for me at the moment : ) Delia's last comment made me think of something that's a pet peeve of mine that sort of applies here, I think. When she said that punishment should not further worsen the situation it reminded me of a recent scene witnessed in a store - where a (very young) father of a very young child smacked the kid on the rump because he was crying! How does hitting an already crying child help the matter? It was all I could do to not say something, and I was too far away at the time. The reason the child was crying? He couldn't keep up with the dad, who was holding his hand and half dragging the poor little guy! Just seems to me that, had the dad been aware that the problem was really that the child couldn't possibly walk as fast - in a diaper and with legs considerably shorter than his - he would have realized how ignorant and unobservant his reaction was, and how totally ineffective. I know this may seem way off topic, but I'm shooting for an analogy here. : )
I do like some of the things the Doms here have said (Thank you Sir Russell, among others )- that one really needs to know the sub and that the punishments don't have to be dire (quite a relief for this newbie, actually! : ) I think the silent treatment would work really well for subs, who, if like me, like to please people as part of their basic nature.

Delia pointed out that public humiliation wouldn't work for everyone too - I know it would probably have me blubbering in the car, but some people might like it. Thanks for listening (reading?)

OK... I just have to ask... did the dad then say... "stop that crying or I will give you something to cry about?"

Sort of like turning a blank piece of paper over to write your name on the back.... doesn't make a lot of sense.

[Wedjat]

Thanks Annie, no the guy didn't say that, but he may as well have. I could go off on a tangent here, and had to stop myself from doing so : ), but it would be WAY off of the topic of the thread. Thanks for getting what I was trying to get at though.

[Echoes]

I think writing lines or denying access to a computer site/game is a very effective punishment.
Writing lines or an essay makes one think of the what, why, and possible solutions/resolutions.

To ignore me...well that would just slam my self esteem or what self esteem I do have into a cement box and seal it, unless I suppose it was explained in black and white why, how long and there be some reassurance there, but even then I am not sure this would work for me.
Yes it is much like telling someone to stop crying or they will give you something to cry about.

[submissivemark]

This is a subject I can wax eloquently on for a good bit!

As I've stated in a different thread in the forum, my Wife & I are a D/s, DD, (domestic discipline), couple, that are also into S/M. With all this in mind, She has come up with highly effective ways of punishing me when needed. The way we practice the lifestyle there are no "fun" punishments, the fun aspects are taken care of in S/M play.

I am an admitted masochist, so one would think that pain in a punishment would do no or little good in correcting me when I have fallen short. Not true, as my wonderful Wife has found out how to incorporate it wisely.

For example, if She feels that a spanking/paddling/whipping is warranted, She has me lean against the wall, & uses a paddle &/or strap on me. I am also required to count each stroke, thank Her & ask for another, which we don't do in play. The combination of that coupled with the fact that there is no physical contact, (unlike a spanking/paddling done over Her lap), & the fact that it is more severe, completely alters the focus & meaning of it, making it very effective.

Corner time, (sometimes holding a coin against the wall with my nose, as one other poster on here has mentioned is done with them), & writing lines or an essay is always a part of any punishment, physical or not. I can't do an hour in the corner as the other poster can, due to a bad knee, so my Wife limits that to 15 minutes.

If I fail to do an assigned chore or task, (laundry, for example), She will do it & make me watch Her as She does. All the while I'm begging to be allowed to do the work, well up to a point, because if that gets on Her nerves, I am warned I will be punished for that as well. Corner time & writing will be included in this as well, & sometimes a session with the strap or paddle.

Backtalk, whining, or disrespect gets a bar of soap in my mouth, usually while standing/kneeling in the corner, & usually after a session with the paddle or strap.

The silent treatment is also used by Her, in conjunction with other punishments, & is extremely effective.

My Wife's rules are very black & white, easily understood & easy to follow, so unless I do actually break one, I am rarely punished. To ensure I keep my focus, we also have a weekly discipline session which consists of a paddling over Her lap & 15 minutes of corner time every Sunday. Counting strokes, thanking Her & asking for the next is a part of this session as well.

Any of the above punishments, (combined or not), are very effective.

[Echoes]

Damn, I have just been put on CR but I still have to tease myself each night (we have not met yet)
Doh, one week into discussion and talking and I am in trouble already!

I think I might actually be in a whole lot more trouble than CR with this Dominant if we continue connecting the way we are.

[jeanne]

I think it's really important that the punishment be appropriate to the situation. An infraction that early in a relationship might earn a mild punishment would perhaps merit something more severe as the relationship progresses and I would supposedly know better by then.

I've only been punished twice - and we found out the very first time that disappointing him is one of my biggest fears. That time wasn't even an actual punishment in the end - simply the threat/suggestion, which made me feel horrible about letting Him down - and then when I was extremely upset about the prospect - a simple "I forgive you". That emotional reaction on my part to the realization that I'd let Him down was the meat of the punishment, and it was very effective.

The second time - well, suffice to say that I'll remember to ask for orgasms when I'm told to. I felt terrible when He asked me, in a gentle tone of voice, "How many times did you cum" and I replied "three" and then from Him - "How many times did you ask?" and I realized - two. Writing lines is boring. And publishing them is just plain embarrassing. But it worked.

My personal goal - never to disappoint Him in any way again.

[Ozme52]

Damn, I have just been put on CR but I still have to tease myself each night (we have not met yet)
Doh, one week into discussion and talking and I am in trouble already!

I think I might actually be in a whole lot more trouble than CR with this Dominant if we continue connecting the way we are.

What did you do?
Are you sure it's a punishment and not part of your training?

[Ozme52]

I think it's really important that the punishment be appropriate to the situation. An infraction that early in a relationship might earn a mild punishment would perhaps merit something more severe as the relationship progresses and I would supposedly know better by then.

I've only been punished twice - and we found out the very first time that disappointing him is one of my biggest fears. That time wasn't even an actual punishment in the end - simply the threat/suggestion, which made me feel horrible about letting Him down - and then when I was extremely upset about the prospect - a simple "I forgive you". That emotional reaction on my part to the realization that I'd let Him down was the meat of the punishment, and it was very effective.

The second time - well, suffice to say that I'll remember to ask for orgasms when I'm told to. I felt terrible when He asked me, in a gentle tone of voice, "How many times did you cum" and I replied "three" and then from Him - "How many times did you ask?" and I realized - two. Writing lines is boring. And publishing them is just plain embarrassing. But it worked.

My personal goal - never to disappoint Him in any way again.

Wait until he switches it up on you and doesn't let you beg.
Then you only get to cum when he decides to offer it.

wicked eh?

[jeanne]

And so He has - and yes, He is deliciously wicked.

[Echoes]

What did you do?
Are you sure it's a punishment and not part of your training?

uhmm very good question Oz, I thought perhaps it was because I climaxed without asking him, yet we had not yet reached this part of the discussion, it was explained the following night in an email that his submissive would ask permission...so

he is training me??