Punishments

[Dorkalicious]

Hello all!

I searched the forums for a punishment thread, and I didn't really see anything that is what I was looking for. So here: I begin the thread.

I am just wondering about punishments for subs, both male and female. You Dom/mes will have fun with this one, I'm sure =D

This is more just to brainstorm ideas, share ideas with one another. Hope it works. Not to mention probably get some juices flowing elsewhere, hehehe.

(These punishments can be anything from r/l relationships or long distance ones )

[nightsilver]

Is it the "fun punishment" or the "you've been bad and now you are being punished" type?

[Dorkalicious]

Punishments, period. It can go either way. It's best if you specify though

[Logic1]

that definitely depends on the "crime" though.
spankings and cum denial are my 2 favorites to "give"


mmm post 100

[benjala]

we should have a section where subs punishments can be recorded, or where training advice can be given. Some sites have public displays where the training / punishment is viewed. Isn't technology wonderful. There are plenty of male or female subs who grave the humiliation - punishment. Also ther are plenty of doms who would love to see the humiliation - punishment.
With hoods and things the recipiant can remain anonymous if needed.

Mock auctions etc technology has made virtually anything possible, and with the new generation of technology coming on line a lot more personal interaction will be possible for those requiring the thrill of cyber domination knowing they are not alone and will be able to interact.

[gagged_Louise]

benjala: I think that's a bit spread all over the Knowledge Base section - helps to search for words like "deprivation", "Ice play" etc by the search tools - but I know there was some Dom who promised he would record his sub's cries as she was being spanked and then upload them as an mp3 file to rapidshare (his sub had freely accepted to share it).

Other suggestions:

sensory deprivation: a tight hood, ring gag, ear plugs. sub left hooded and tied up for an hour and then made to suck Master's cock through the gag.

the sub, naked or almost naked, cuffs her hands behind her back, kneels and has to eat a turkey sandwich placed in front of her without help of her hands (this would work fine on remote too - thanks hellish!)

nipples pinched and twisted

sub ordered to whip her mound and imagine she is being fucked, and then to write a story or prose piece detailing her fantasy and her thoughts.

(though I'm writing "her", all of these except the last, will work just as fine for male slaves)

[Logic1]

mmm I like your mind Louise

go shop groceries with a rope harness under her clothes. (funfun)
nippleclamps on hard

[MajesticFae]

If the subbie is a computer/forums addict. Ban her from it for a day or so. I'd be saying I was extremely sorry if that happened.

I've often heard that mindless repetitive tasks work well, like doing lines or writing essays.

[lucretia]

My very first punishment (it was for being lippy) was being put in the corner with my hands on my head. I had to use my nose to hold a penny against the wall. After a half hour, that got very tiresome and my desire to be a smart mouth was severely curtailed.

[TomOfSweden]

I have a pretty nasty whip. It's a over sized paddle. That's for bad punishments. She's not into pain, so there's no "nice" punishments.

[Sir_Russell]

One of my harshest punishments is not talking to her barely acknowledging that she is there. Doesn't take long for the tears to start.

[tessa]

One of my harshest punishments is not talking to her barely acknowledging that she is there. Doesn't take long for the tears to start.

Yep. That's a horrid one alright. ~shudders~

[crazy_grrluk]

the worse kind of punishment is no punishment at all...just pure silence.
no eye contact....no acknowlegment .......no communication whatsoever.

I hate it

[Cracked]

A nasty enema.

[pixie_dust]

*nods head*

Have to agree with Sir Russell and tessa. Being completely ignored for any amount of time is absolutely the worst punishment. I've only received it once, and hope to never have to endure that again.

[moptop]

Yes, for not-fun punishment, being ignored is the worst. It really truly should only be used in situations where the sub has been totally out of order (in my opinion, of course).

Any other punishment for not-fun should certainly be something the sub is not going to get any pleasure out of - sometimes, just the dom/me telling them how disappointed they are, how hurt they are, will work very well. That can be dire. Standing in the corner type stuff for misdemeanours is pretty good, too, I think. Boring. Gives you lots of time to think...

Fun punishment - well, mostly, that's going to be pain if you're into pain, isn't it! I had one fun punishment for cumming when I shouldn't have - pair of geisha balls, still don't know how you say that in English, on in the front, one in the back, 2 hours, go about my normal day. Damn! serious turn on (but not enought to cum and knowing there would be no orgasm at the end of it) and nasty pain from the stretched string at the same time.

[~hellish one~]

the sub, naked or almost naked, cuffs her hands behind her back, kneels and has to eat a turkey sandwich placed in front of her without help of her hands (this would work fine on remote too - thanks hellish!)

oh my goodness! ~blushing~ louise!! lol! i'd forgotten all about that!

If the subbie is a computer/forums addict. Ban her from it for a day or so.

Oh god...have had this one done to me before. i thought i was going to die! only i wasn't banned for a day or so...it was for a week or so! then there was the time i banned myself from chat for a week as a punishment. (don't ask lol) i dunno what the hell i was thinking there but after i'd told him about it, there was no backing out. i never would have forgave myself.

One of my harshest punishments is not talking to her barely acknowledging that she is there. Doesn't take long for the tears to start.

you know...i always joke with Woogs about how he could never ignore me...but i know that if he ever wanted to test that theory out as a punishment it would definitely be a good one. it would drive me crazy to not have that contact with him...or especially to see him online and not be able to talk to him....or get texts from him! it makes me sad thinking about it!!

the writing lines/essays and corner time are also good effective punishments. also...for me...physical pain can work as a punishment even though i am a masochist because of the intent behind it. spanking for fun? YAY! spanking for punishment? booooooooo! i hate looking at the marks left behind after a punishment spanking. not fun reminder. but effective nonetheless...

[Sir_Russell]

Fun punishments I have none. Fun times and wild ways I have more then my share.

[^firefly^]

As far as punishments go...

Ignoring/isolation kills me. Nothing breaks me down faster than knowing I have disappointed him to that point. Whether it's because he needs space/time to think over my punishment, or whether the ignoring/refusing to speak to me/etc. *is* my punishment...it never fails to make me think long and hard about what I've done, and how much I need to improve.

Humiliation works, too. Nothing hurts more than harsh words, applied well. I'm something of a perfectionist, so failing him is never something I want to do. And when I have, getting my nose rubbed in it always embarasses me to the point that I'll never do *that* (whatever "that" was) again.

Boring/repetitive assignments (lines, mundane chores) are much the same, as I absolutely detest them. They work, but less effectively...I have to really try not to mouth off about how much I *hate* writing lines, as it always seems like such a waste of my time. Never fails to hammer a lesson home, though. Repetion leads to accuracy which leads to understanding which leads to improvement, maybe?

I've always had a pretty clear line in my head, about what is punishment and what isn't. Because I enjoy pain, physical punishments (spanking, etc) usually aren't *punishment* to me, but an extension of playtime. ("Have you been a bad girl today?" *giggles* "Oh yes, Master...I've been soooo bad..") That said, there's a big difference to me between a "playful" spanking and a "punishment" spanking. One doesn't necessarily have to hurt more than the other, but it's the attitude in which it's given that counts.

But then, I guess that's it. Attitude is everything, to me. Knowing I'm disappointed him is what makes a punishment a *punishment*, regardless of how it's delivered. But that's just my 2 cents; feel free to disregard them if you disagree.

[Sir_Russell]

Hmmm realized that I seem to have contradicted myself. What I mean is that I don't use punishments unless there is a reason for it that can't be dealt with in any other way. Then it will not be physical or what she may like in play but much harder to make it punishment. This will create a fear of the play level. I remember one of the young Doms that wanted me to mentor him, he told me quite proudly that she had screwed up a task so he had her suck his cock as punishment.

Good lord don't ever do that again I told him. Same basic reason that you don't take play action she loves and make her connect it with punishment is the same that you don't have her do something you love as punishment.

So I don't play at punishment and when given it will hurt her but probably not physically or be something she hates doing anyway

[Can's Peaches]

I think the worst for me is even knowing that he is mad or even a little irritated with me, that kills.

I would hate to be ignored as well. Master has a corner with a chair in it for me, this I would hate, have not had to sit there yet.

[Slave Kitty Sivesh]

I think the worst for me is even knowing that he is mad or even a little irritated with me, that kills.

I would hate to be ignored as well.

I also have to agree. Just knowing master is disappointed in me is a killer, but at the same time makes me try harder to please her. Being ignored by master is one of the worst punishments I can think of.

[xadianx]

I would suggest 2 good ways of punishment
1 being completely unaware of you sub thus ignoring them for a certain amount of time
2 Not allowing them to have any sexual encounters with you or solo but better than that not allowing them to orgasm is best =)

[Dorkalicious]

Wow! I'm so happy this has taken off

Hmm. Some of these punishments really make me second guess doing something to offend a Dom.

1)Being banned from the forums? Oh God, I couldn't handle that, I'm sorry. Lol.

2)Being ignored? Not to sound out of line, but this punishment better only be used if it's an extreme case if you ask me. I wouldn't be able to handle being ignored, period....

3)Essays. I like this one, because I like to write. Sadly I don't write as much as I used to. I think it would be a good punishment just because it would help with writing skills. It could be an essay or a short story...anything


You all have made such wonderful input! Keep it up!

[TeddyBearGaySlave]

A really nasty punishment is a chastity belt combined with getting totally ignored no matter what you do.
That is really terrible, at least for me.

btw: im back =)

[crazy_grrluk]

^ wb

I never get "punished" by S1....he has no reason to do so...because i always end up punishing myself before he has a chance to do so lol

go figure.

[Noontide]

Sir Russel, tessa, crazygirluk, do you guys realise that what you're talking about as defined punishment (not acknowledging another person, silence etc) is the standard punsihment that most people mete out to people they're upset with in or out of bdsm play and relationships???? it's something most of us to to the people we love most in our lives - partners, kids, parents, friends .... and not even as a part of play!!!

[Austerus]

The difference is that in vanilla relationships/everyday lives, we are often not as aware of what we are doing or why we are doing it. In a BDSM relationship it can be very effective to let a submissive know that there has been a serious breach of trust or failure to live up to expectations about which you the dom are very disappointed. It's very very useful as a tool used sparingly to drive a lesson home firmly.

By the same token, it's very important to not overdo it, and to not respond to any infraction by being cold/aloof/distant. Being used in a more aware and more purposeful manner actually makes it used less often and for a lower amount of time. Particularly as the sub knows -exactly- why the dom is doing it, and will most likely have learned the lesson very quickly.

[TomOfSweden]

In a BDSM relationship isn't punishments mostly about

1) teaching your slave what's really really really important to you, which should if the slave is the submissive she claims to be, only be done once.

2) the slave needs it, (for her sake and mental sanity) for what ever reason. I'm great at gauging it.

[Hime]

It was only fairly recently that my husband caught on to the difference between "fun punishment" and "serious bizness punishment." Needless to say, my life got harder at that point.

The worst in terms of making me feel really, really bad about what I'd done wrong was being told that I couldn't call him Master until he told me I could. Reminding me that serving him is still a privilege.

Obviously it can't be taken too far, but sleep deprivation is also a pretty good incentive to think about what one has done wrong -- not like "no sleep tonight," but like "you have to finish your task before you go to sleep" when the sub is already feeling tired.