Brute Force

[GreyJack]

Fuerzabruta

Fuerzabruta means “brute force” in Spanish. Every language has its term for this, some seeming more guttural than others. So what does this have to do with bdsm? A lot, I think because of what lies beneath simple words. Enveloped in the concept of brute force are all the rape fantasies, the being over-powered, the heavier aspects of bondage, the less subtle practices of sadism, and even -- perhaps metaphorically -- the emotional and mental “brute” forces at play in power exchange relationships. And sometimes, if a person is attuned to it, we enjoy using the exotic non-English words for things to add a sensual frisson to the acts they describe.

Submission, yielding, surrender -- they happen in subtle ways, soft ways, even casual ways, but there is nothing casual, I think, about fuerzbruta. The stark nature of it usually reeks of barely controlled (or seemingly out of control) passion. Ripping off clothes, the hard and tensed muscles of sheer strength being exercised, and the “rush” of actions until some conclusion -- orgasm or otherwise -- is reached. Certainly, variety is charming and the softer approaches are sweet and reassuring, but many partners love to be -- if I can use the word -- “subsumed” and taken at least once in awhile. Apart from the physical acts -- forcefully bent over a table or shoved against a wall, etc. -- I’m curious about other people’s feelings and thoughts about brute force in their relationships. What is it like when you sometimes feel your mind or emotions overwhelmed just by the “power” of your Dom’s/Domme’s personality, thoughts, expressed feelings?

[annie]

What is it like when you sometimes feel your mind or emotions overwhelmed just by the “power” of your Dom’s/Domme’s personality, thoughts, expressed feelings?

Overwhelmed is certainly the right word to use, at least in my opinion. As to what it is like, not sure I can explain it exactly. It is a strong mixture of emotion... fear, excitement, satisfaction, pleasure and surrender. Basically when I am "overwhelmed" by their personality, thoughts, feelings it is a sense of being overwhelmed by them in general... a focus that is almost vacuum in nature. Everything goes to them, every thought, feeling, emotion I have is feed from them, by them and for them. There is no other thought, feeling, emotion, or relative conscientiousness that does not involve them.

The few times it has happened is has been one of the greatest times of "surrender" and yet one of the largest times of fear...

See... knew I couldn't explain it! *laughs*

[tessa]

Fuerzabruta

Fuerzabruta means “brute force” in Spanish. And sometimes, if a person is attuned to it, we enjoy using the exotic non-English words for things to add a sensual frisson to the acts they describe.

I don't know how attuned to it I am, but I can sure appreciate the hell out of this topic...especially the Spanish flavor you gave it. How wonderfully you presented it, Grey Jack.

but there is nothing casual, I think, about fuerzbruta. The stark nature of it usually reeks of barely controlled (or seemingly out of control) passion.

Nothing casual about it, that's for sure. And I prefer the phrase "barely controlled". It denotes being right on the edge of losing it, without actually going off that deep end. But falling over into the abyss can be quite a place to be. For a moment or two, at least. More than that, and you are in danger of losing more than just "it".

the “rush” of actions until some conclusion -- orgasm or otherwise -- is reached.

Thank you for that clarification. The intensity and brutality of the situation can certainly be its own climax. Sure, orgasms are great, many times most powerful on their own, but finding release in all things "Fuerzabruta" can be mind altering and changing. Quite a rush, indeed.

but many partners love to be -- if I can use the word -- “subsumed”

Ooo! Please do use it! What a great word! I'm stealing it, okay?

I’m curious about other people’s feelings and thoughts about brute force in their relationships. What is it like when you sometimes feel your mind or emotions overwhelmed just by the “power” of your Dom’s/Domme’s personality, thoughts, expressed feelings?

For me personally, this overwhelmed state is filled with intensity, fear, exhilaration and serious focus. It's rare to find this place and requires a single-minded connection. Once there, however, there's nothing one won't do to get back there. Well, this "one" at least.

Great topic, Grey Jack. Thanks again for the thoughts. Yours, as well as the ones it provoked from me.

tessa

[lookingforsomething]

hmmmm one of my most favorite thing ever, since I was like 11 or 12 what you described has been my moistest and hottest and deepest and most loved fantasy and thing I like to do in sex, hell not even BDSM (because I didn't know what that was, like there was a name to what was in my head for years, I thought everyone had my thoughts too). I enjoy it, because it makes me (forces me to) let go, when your always in control of everything and everyone around you and you have such violence and power against you, it strips all that control from you hands and makes u feel that someone else has control over you which is worrying, scary and totally freeing feeling and makes your mind lift like nothing else does, pushing me harder than anything else.
by the way, great topic my favourite so I am bumping it by answering lol
looking

[violett]

hmmmm one of my most favorite thing ever, since I was like 11 or 12 what you described has been my moistest and hottest and deepest and most loved fantasy and thing I like to do in sex, hell not even BDSM (because I didn't know what that was, like there was a name to what was in my head for years, I thought everyone had my thoughts too). I enjoy it, because it makes me (forces me to) let go, when your always in control of everything and everyone around you and you have such violence and power against you, it strips all that control from you hands and makes u feel that someone else has control over you which is worrying, scary and totally freeing feeling and makes your mind lift like nothing else does, pushing me harder than anything else.
by the way, great topic my favourite so I am bumping it by answering lol
looking

Yep.... I totally agree with everything you just said..