Brute Force

[GreyJack]

Fuerzabruta

Fuerzabruta means “brute force” in Spanish. Every language has its term for this, some seeming more guttural than others. So what does this have to do with bdsm? A lot, I think because of what lies beneath simple words. Enveloped in the concept of brute force are all the rape fantasies, the being over-powered, the heavier aspects of bondage, the less subtle practices of sadism, and even -- perhaps metaphorically -- the emotional and mental “brute” forces at play in power exchange relationships. And sometimes, if a person is attuned to it, we enjoy using the exotic non-English words for things to add a sensual frisson to the acts they describe.

Submission, yielding, surrender -- they happen in subtle ways, soft ways, even casual ways, but there is nothing casual, I think, about fuerzbruta. The stark nature of it usually reeks of barely controlled (or seemingly out of control) passion. Ripping off clothes, the hard and tensed muscles of sheer strength being exercised, and the “rush” of actions until some conclusion -- orgasm or otherwise -- is reached. Certainly, variety is charming and the softer approaches are sweet and reassuring, but many partners love to be -- if I can use the word -- “subsumed” and taken at least once in awhile. Apart from the physical acts -- forcefully bent over a table or shoved against a wall, etc. -- I’m curious about other people’s feelings and thoughts about brute force in their relationships. What is it like when you sometimes feel your mind or emotions overwhelmed just by the “power” of your Dom’s/Domme’s personality, thoughts, expressed feelings?