Hi Asia,

You don't have to settle for a BDSM-less relationship.
Keep your sense of humor with you along with that patience.

And don't be afraid to tell someone you are interested in what turns you on. Let's borrow some wisdom from Wayne in Wayne's World:

[Garth fears throwing up if he talks to his dream girl.]
Wayne Campbell: I say hurl. If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be.

If you tell them what you want and they bolt, it's their loss and you can check off another possible candidate, guilt free.

Good luck in your search for a suitable partner(s),

Ruby