But the real point, I think, is that you've already had your open communications. So this may be a simple matter of him not realizing exactly how important you hold this to be.

So remind him.

Go to the bedroom.
Strip.
Get on your knees, legs spread wide, hands on your thighs palms up.
Hold a crop, paddle, or flogger between your teeth.
Wait.

You'll get your answer one way or another.


(Can you tell I/we really want to hear how it turns out?)