My take on the chatroom.. I ca't say I've seen much evidence of snobbery from people practising bdsm in real life. In this day and age many (even most?) of us who are in real life dom/sub relationships began with online play.

Where I sometimes get bored with the room, and the manner in which I would certainly describe it as 'mild', is that most of the time there is really no bdsm talk of any kind. It is usually a mixture of greetings and hugs between friends, jokes, etc.

Of course I'm sure there is plenty of roleplaying going on in whisper, but I'd love to see more actual discussions in there. I find discussing things on forums a little too slow, and prefer the immediacy of chat for talking about stuff.