Hello there,

This topic has probably been discussed before, but I thought I'd raise it again. It's more of a question for the (unattached) bdsm lifestylers.

The topic is the chatroom. I'm quite a regular in the chatroom, and I really do like it. However, someone just came into the room and said "is this room still mild, or can you meet lifestylers?"

Made me think. A few other threads have expressed similar snobbery towards the milder online community - is that how the rest of you lifestylers think?

I've had a lot of fun in the chatroom. I entered as a completely vanilla but curious person, and I've met a few friendly chatroom people in real life and hope to meet more. Some of the people I've met are genuine serious bdsm people, and they welcomed me warmly, so I know you're not all snobs!

I personally think roleplaying is a fine, safe way for an uncertain person to find out how kinky they are. It's a safe way to imagine how you would feel groping person A, whipping person B, and having wax poured on you by persons C through G.

There are definitely plenty of pompous and illiterate people in the chatroom, and many genuine subs don't go there because pinheaded "doms" come in and expect to be worshipped. I'm not saying it's perfect, but don't dismiss all roleplayers as horny teenagers with fertile imaginations!

Sometimes you need to get your toes wet before you dive right in.

Q