I feel compelled to reply to some of the points in this post from Tojo:

Quote Originally Posted by Tojo View Post
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I also find many in R/L relationships look down on those in online ones.

It's sad to see that while this kinky community is generally composed of intelligent broadminded individuals, there's plenty of 'my way is right- yours is wrong'. People who say unless you do it my way, you're merely 'playing' at the lifestyle.

I have to add that it works the other way too. There are those who frown upon or don't like to hear about the activities of real-lifers.. or merely the fantasies of people whose kinks seem 'worse' than the average. People who say unless you do it our way, you are sick/disgusting.

A very sad state of affairs indeed.

I notice however that I seem to have no trouble finding girls to play with & have one collared to me. Perhaps I'm doing alright?

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I wonder too sometimes, how many new people are scared off by the pressure to 'get hard or get out?'

In the room at here at present, there is certainly NO such pressure. Quite the complete opposite at times

Tojo