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    thank you all. our 'zing' isn't gone, per se..its just...sleeping LOL all very good suggestions...and i thank you for taking the time to read and answer thoughtfully...

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    Quote Originally Posted by karin{ID} View Post
    thank you all. our 'zing' isn't gone, per se..its just...sleeping LOL all very good suggestions...and i thank you for taking the time to read and answer thoughtfully...
    Sounds in a way like the problem is what happens with every couple at some point and time... be it vanilla or D/s couples.

    From what i read at least it appears as though the "romance" is missing. karin knows what chores need done and does them. ID knows how to meet the physical needs. But... what about the subtle little things that used to happen? Do those still happen? Little things that show that one is thinking of the other at various times? Calling/emailing her out of the blue and adding a bit of spice... such as "clamp and cum in two minutes." Or writing him a note (or researching a new level of kinky) and emailing/calling him and begging for it to happen?

    This may be happening all ready... i couldn't tell one way or the other from the posts. But, if not, that extra bit of attention may be what is missing. Always discussing everyday things gets mundane and takes out the "zing" quickly.

    Just a thought!
    Many a false step is made by standing still

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    It sounds as if Karin's ability to anticipates ID's needs have made things a bit routine. Perhaps the tasks ID leaves should focus on serving him in less obvious ways. On laundry day, Karin's task could be to spend the day at the spa pampering and preparing her body for ID's pleasure, perhaps with somethings specified - nail color, bikini wax, etc. Another task could be for Karin to write down any submissive desire she had during the day, which ID could file away to act on at another time. If ID has lunch at a specified time each day, he could leave a standing order for Karin to masterbate to the edge at that specified time so that he can think of his pussy at that time.

    Intersperse the exotic with the mundane. When the daily task is cleaning out the refrigerator, pin a note with some explicit instructions on what to do with a zuccini. Think of tasks that have no purpose other than Karin is doing them because ID told her to. Example, every time she goes to the bathroom, she must stop and restart peeing at least three times to demonstrate ID's control of her. Just little things to make Karin feel that she is not just cleaning the house because it needs to be cleaned. She's cleaning it in the nude to remind her of her submission.

    fantassy

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    ID, I don't really know you but I have seen some of your posts and think you to have a loving, insightful, intelligent mind and be of person...karin from your posts, I think you to be wonderful and loving and so open.
    I have nothing to help here, everyone here has said anything I could think of and much more...but you are right when you say it does show how everyone here pulls together to help, it surprises me yet it doesn't for the love for each other can be felt in everyone's words and how much they do to smile and touch others continually.
    This will work because the two of you want to work through this and your love for each other, your communication and honesty.
    warmest hugs for you both
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