ID and Karin,

Life can easily get in the way of all that exciting playtime that used to be between the two of you.

And yet, there are things that submissives often crave, that feeling of being owned, of being praised for a job well done, that can be a key part of as successful D/S relationship.

I recommend reading "The Slave". It's a stand alone book in the Market Place Series by Laura Antoniou.

For Doms, it provides a wonderful insight into the mind of someone seeking D/S 24/7.

For subs/slaves and even those of us who call ourselves pets, it's one of those "ah ha" reads. Yes, yes, that's what I want. Or no fracken way, we'll skip that, thank you.

It's excellent food for thought and discussion.

Karin,

Have you thought about rituals or tasks above and beyond the daily chores of living that would help keep you in the D/S mode you crave?

ID

Are you willing to take the time to provide the those things?

Both of you,

The mental part of D/S is where much of the zing and satisfaction can happen. The anticipation of an upcoming scene, the thrill of doing "submissive tasks" for the dom, the pleasure the dom receives and rewards given can all add a bit more spice to the couple's part of your life.

I also agree with other suggestions. Get out there and spend some alone time. Put the kids to bed or send them out of the house with a sitter and start "dating" again.

It might even be time to pull out one of those checklists and talk through it together. You may not finish the discussion one session, cause "play happens".

All the best on taking your relationship to the next level and keeping the fire burning,

Ruby