Quote Originally Posted by karin{ID} View Post
thank you all. our 'zing' isn't gone, per se..its just...sleeping LOL all very good suggestions...and i thank you for taking the time to read and answer thoughtfully...
Sounds in a way like the problem is what happens with every couple at some point and time... be it vanilla or D/s couples.

From what i read at least it appears as though the "romance" is missing. karin knows what chores need done and does them. ID knows how to meet the physical needs. But... what about the subtle little things that used to happen? Do those still happen? Little things that show that one is thinking of the other at various times? Calling/emailing her out of the blue and adding a bit of spice... such as "clamp and cum in two minutes." Or writing him a note (or researching a new level of kinky) and emailing/calling him and begging for it to happen?

This may be happening all ready... i couldn't tell one way or the other from the posts. But, if not, that extra bit of attention may be what is missing. Always discussing everyday things gets mundane and takes out the "zing" quickly.

Just a thought!