ID, I don't really know you but I have seen some of your posts and think you to have a loving, insightful, intelligent mind and be of person...karin from your posts, I think you to be wonderful and loving and so open.
I have nothing to help here, everyone here has said anything I could think of and much more...but you are right when you say it does show how everyone here pulls together to help, it surprises me yet it doesn't for the love for each other can be felt in everyone's words and how much they do to smile and touch others continually.
This will work because the two of you want to work through this and your love for each other, your communication and honesty.
warmest hugs for you both