Thank you for the replies, and the understanding.

We were such good christians when we met (now not) we waited until the wedding night. He a virgin, me with two other lovers. I should have paid attention in pre-marital counseling. He didn't think much about sex. He thought it was just icing on the cake and not as important as the rest. I saw it as the sugar in the cake. I thought once he had some he would want more and more. It would become just as important, after all, he was a virgin, he'd have a lifetime of exploration with me.

I can't shake the feeling that I'm the one who's selfish. Everything else is mostly fine. I like my life. We just aren't compatible sexually.