ok... i have to butt in again.........
I can't shake the feeling that I'm the one who's selfish. Everything else is mostly fine. I like my life. We just aren't compatible sexually.
that is the first mistake to assume self/one is the problem. i think if you stepped back and would look at the whole more objectively as i have suggested before, you'd see things aren't just " mostly fine" .

Lady, i have high respect for you and i have known you for some time.
so , it is from that perspective/knowledge that i am speaking .