i think if you stepped back and would look at the whole more objectively as i have suggested before, you'd see things aren't just " mostly fine" .
I try. In most scenarios, whether in my marriage or not, I tend to analyze with reasoning out both sides of the story and where I might be wrong. When I stick up for myself, I've gotten hurt. Not just with my husband. I know how to stand on my own two feet, I'm not a doormat. It's just hard to hurt people you love, and by continuing to have heart to hearts with him the more it hurts him. Not good enough. Not good enough. Not good enough. So when do you just accept it? (I'm stubborn, I don't easily)

Your empathy, from all of you, is very comforting.