I didn't mean you were saying she was the root. I meant it is the root of the problem that must be fixed. I just don't think you can just cover up what is wrong. The problem will still be there and even if you change it comes back to haunt you, because changing yourself, while maybe you don't think it aloud, it makes you feel more like you are responsible. I tired very hard to change myself, and it never worked, there was always the voice in the back of my head. There have been studies done on things like this. I had a very respected professor of socioligy of sexuality tell me that there was nothing I could do to change myself, because that is not how our bodies work. Unless you have depression or are sick it is very hard just to turn off your sex drive, and denying it can cause all sorts of mental and physical health problems.