Hi Mishka,

First off, my heart goes out to you.

By now, everyone has said pretty much what I was going to say... except for one thing which I'll get to.

Earlier on you mentioned everything is great except sexual compatibility. I'm a firm believer that that's very important. It's ok to be varied, and life can't always match our desires possibly creating some dry spells... but to be so completely unmatched sexually is difficult if one person has a strong libido. I remember after a break up with one man that I loved so deeply, would have spent my life with... through my tears I sort of comforted myself with the fact that at least the rest of my life wouldn't be that sex life. Don't get me wrong- it was ok, but I knew it would always be fairly straight forward and our libidos didn't match completely. I realized that day how important sexual compatibility is.

It sounds as if the anti-depressants only heighten what already exists. I would suggest a sex counselor as opposed to just couples counciling. The thought that he may be submissive crossed my mind, but when I read the part about 8 Years before he tasted your sex, what crossed my mind is perhaps he's homosexual. I don't say that in any judgement, and perhaps I'm far too sexual to understand prudish to the point of not being able to put my tongue on my spouses most intimate of places... but that's what crossed my mind. Perhaps I'm way off base and I apologize- hope no offense is taken.

I think ID has some good ideas of how to spice things up, and Master 327 has a good point about talking too much about a topic. If it's discussed too much that you're unsatisfied, your husband may be fearful to try (though it doesn't sound like he's tried to much in the past). This is in no way your fault- just two mismatched libidos- but perhaps not discussing it and acting upon it (counceling, masterbation with no participation on his part, special make out time with no pressure for sex, sexy outfits, etc) could help a little.

I really think he needs a sex therapist though- imho there's something more to this than prudish... there has to be.

Good luck and very hot av!

"Compromises is one thing, but sacrificing something that is important for you isn't compromising, it's dying a little every day. "
well said Tom.