Quote Originally Posted by slavelucy
Hiya Kats,

There's quite a lot of stuff actually on that thread you mentioned as to why that might have happened, in terms of reasons for org. control, the way it is handled, expectations of the sub etc etc. IMHO, i think successful orgasm deprivation is more like orgasm control, in that the outcome of it should really be that one finds it just as easy to climax on command as they do to NOT climax on command. It is, however, a fine line.

sl
Hey there luce,

Will there ever come a day when we disagree??? LOL...

That fine line you speak of is soooooo very true. And it is the difference between good communication between partners and bad communication. In the after care, it is important to discuss all areas of a scene. If one finds it more difficult to release after a long session of deprivation, then perhaps the time should be shortened... or perhaps it just isn't for that person.

The best advice i can offer, is talk talk talk and then talk some more. Never be afraid to explain to your partner what happened and what you think might help the situation. And remember, what works for some, won't for others... There is so much to try or discover, one should not get hung up if something does not work for them. Move on and find something that does... have fun!

Master's tehya