Quote Originally Posted by Mishka View Post
I'm not looking for a cure...just effort. Trying goes a long way with me.

I have talked too much in the past about it, I'm hardly an angel. But I've been learning and changing the bad habits.



Absolutely none taken. If that were the case I'd want him to be happy. But honest, it's prudishness. He's very much pro-gay rights, but seeing two men together does nothing for him...nor two women either. Porn does nothing for him, while we're on the subject. He was raised by a conservative, loving mother and his parents were both very uptight, anxious people. He's relaxed compared to most of his family!

We have our ups and downs. I try to make the very most of the ups. Naturally, the downs come and so do the tears. I'm just glad I have supportive, understanding people to talk to. It brings back the focus of what I need to be doing, and not letting me stay in self-pity for too long. This was very strengthening.

Mishka, My heart goes out to you because I have been there too. I won't get into the details but I was treated that way by my ex and the damage it did to my self esteem was horrible. Its not your fault, don't forget that ever.

I hope things work out for you and you sound like you have gotten a second wind. But no matter what you need to remember that likely whatever issues are at hand for him, they were there before you and will be there if you leave him. They are his issues not yours, and you need to feel loved and sexual and there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone needs that.

Good luck