And what does one (ok,me) do when one wants and the other does not? I'm not considering going at it against her will, but i can't just say "ok,then" after i've brought her to her knees... Then again, maybe i can...
Well no, you wouldn't want to force her against her will (a good roleplay, but no so good in actuality). Now what you do after you've brought her to her knees is for you both to discuss ahead of time, I would think. If you both want "ok, then", go for it! I have made myself perfectly clear to my husband about what I would love to have happen if he ever does bring me to my knees. That way there won't be any need for him to wonder about it while the play is in motion, so to speak. Now if I could just get him to hike the damn ball...

You are most welcome for the link. Hope it helps!