Boy after reading your post it is hard for me to imagine that you are still talking about on line Doms. Just how does an on line Dom take walks with you after dinner? That is just one example from what I read. I could ask other questions like how does he hold you after a session or give you a back rub if he is on line. But then I know that imagination can and does play a large part in on line feelings and actions. After all on line is still real life, isn't it?

You do make some valid points but if it is true you have seen it happen "time and time again" as you say then I think maybe something else may be missing like great communication.

If I say I need you, does it really mean more than if I say I want you so badly it hurts? If you believe I want you without needing you then I can see where it may bother you so I'll give you that point. However, I do believe that saying I want you also means there is a great desire on my part for having you in whatever way we are talking about at the time it is said. If I want you, I also need you. If you have someone where this is not the case then what do you have to begin with. IMO you only have someone who is using you so he probably will never need you.

I'm not saying that positive reinforcement of ones feelings and consideration of other's should not be carefully phrased to make sure each knows the other's feelings well. I'm just saying, in my case anyway, I don't "want" without "needing" her. So I would hope in her viewing me as her Master and Dom that she never finds fault in my expression of desiring her no matter which word I use. If that would happen, again in my opinion, there would be something basically wrong with our relationship to begin with.

After reading all this I feel I must ask, are you really talking about on line relationships as your first sentence states? It just does not read that way to me.