We see each other everyday and talk on the phone 10 times a day when we're apart. I think that's a good idea, I mean asking her what she expects, but at the same time I don't want to "over analyze" ahead of time. I think that would take some of the fun out of it. I thought it might be best to ask after the first experience...like "Was I to rough?" or "Would you have liked it to be more forceful?" and "How did you feel when I did this?" etc. I think part of the thrill for her will be not knowing what I am going to do. I know she loves me, but there is still the thing about being totally bound and helpless that has to leave a question in her mind.

My goal is to make it the most erotic experience and the most powerful orgasm of her life.

I was thinking that after she is tied and blindfolded and somewhat aroused...that I should quietly talk to her and explain about a "safe word" and then take it from there