medic was looking for some insight on her perceptions on the idea of a collar. The "its what you make of it" she already knew. she was looking for personal views more than politically safe views.

My view of a collar is it states that the bottom/submissive is in a committed relationship.

The dynamic of that relationship is unknown until stated by the bottom. As far as I am concerned, if the sub is collared, and it were to be to me. If she is submissive, then thats just what she is, my committed submissive. Committed to the relationship as we desire it. Committed to submitting to me as I require. On the other hand, if she is slave, and I am talking 24/7 slave, not bedroom slave or playtime slave. If she is slave, then her voice in the relationship is valued, but only heeded when I find usefulness in what she has to say. Safe words as a submissive knows them would be reduced in weight, as they would only be for an emergency, not "I can't do this anymore". When I say emergency, I'm talking "either i get to pee, or i steam clean the carpet" kind of emergency. A slave gets only as much personal freedoms as her Master would allow. If that means she doesn't do anything until told to do so, then thats what it is. Personally, I don't like that level of protocol in a relationship. I find it to be time consuming and monotonous.

medic and I are in lengthy discussions about what a collar means to each of us, and what we want in a D/s relationship. It was from these conversations that I told her to pose the question to the forms, get the opinion of some others. Widen the perspective, and then formulate her own views from what information she gathered. Then we talk some more, and figure out what direction we want to go.

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