Questions on collars

[cariad]

...My view of a collar is it states that the bottom/submissive is in a committed relationship. ...

I would agree with you ID, to me a collar is symbolic of commitment to each other and commitment to whatever that relationship may be.

In the same way that I have learnt to never try and understand how other people's marriages work, I have given up trying to understand how other people's bdsm relationships work, we are all so different.

He whom I choose to serve has not given me a collar since I have not yet agreed to marry him. His logic, which I agree with, is that since I still have a reservation about making the commitment of marrying him, I cannot be fully committed to the relationship, and therefore I am not in a position to accept his collar.

At the other end of the spectrum, I have respect for online collars if it is an established relationship and both parties are as fully committed to each other as their circumstances permit.

I would disagree with one point however - to me a collar shows that both Dom/me and sub are in a committed relationship, even though it is only the sub who wears it.

cariad

[ceegee{Benz}]

I would disagree with one point however - to me a collar shows that both Dom/me and sub are in a committed relationship, even though it is only the sub who wears it.

cariad

My Master wears my collar...of sorts lolol.
When I accepted his collar he also accepted a neckchain of mine that is a family heirloom. The pendant is an anchor.
Not only does he carry a picture of us but he also has a piece of me close to his heart at all times.
is a bit like exchanging weddings rings...is how i can explain it

[MajesticFae]

My Master wears my collar...of sorts lolol.
When I accepted his collar he also accepted a neckchain of mine that is a family heirloom. The pendant is an anchor.
Not only does he carry a picture of us but he also has a piece of me close to his heart at all times.

That's beautiful, ceegee! It's a little funny, that's wonderful that he keeps that piece of you close to his heart.

I agree with Warbaby and cariad too that the collar signifies a commited relationship between Dom/me and sub.

[tessa]

~hugs you tight~

That is beautiful, sweetie!

[Warbaby1943]

I would disagree with one point however - to me a collar shows that both Dom/me and sub are in a committed relationship, even though it is only the sub who wears it.

cariad

I have to agree with this statement. It is how I have felt for a long time and the reason I could never understand how two or three could wear the collar of one Dom/me at the same time. I guess I could understand a Dom/me having more than one sub but I don't understand more than one of them being collared at the same time. I guess I am old fashioned probably because I am old but that is my opinion.

[_ID_]

I would disagree with one point however - to me a collar shows that both Dom/me and sub are in a committed relationship, even though it is only the sub who wears it.

cariad

Since the thread was about what a collar signified for a submissive, I didn't include my thoughts on it from the Dominants perspective, though I did elude to them I think.

So since it was brought up, I will clarify. I did say that a collar signifies that the sub is in a committed relationship, one that I would desire. Just so there isn't a misunderstanding, yes, I would be also committed to that relationship as the sub and I defined it.