Quote Originally Posted by carinas View Post
ummm are you for real? you have gone from blaming j for being selfish, to alluding to kill yourself, to j passing away. i think you have lost track of the fact that these people are married? and that you are not the primary one, you dont get what you want so you act out and lay all the blame on the primary partner,


thats a relationship of deciet, if this is so then he really has no credibility at all and you by your actions would be welcome to him if this were happening to me.

you know what? seek some help from someone, what you have written sounds like a woman scorned and its come across to me as unhealthy for all concerned.
tone it down please. we are not here to judge others. mari poured her heart out to us. her pain, fears, confusion...everything...and i'm sure the last thing she needs right now is someone judging her emotions and reactions to a very stressful situation in her life right now.

she never once said that she and her Master would be deceitful and hide their separate relationship from j...she just said they considered it as a possible solution. that is all.
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mari, honey, no one is here to judge you...and we want you to feel free to vent your frustrations and problems. we may not be able to do much, but we will do what we can. poly relationships are a complicated thing...it doesn't work for everyone and it's not widely understood and accepted so there is bound to be some confusion and misunderstandings in regards to it, but i WILL NOT allow anyone to tear you down in your time of need. i will be sending you a PM shortly...an experience of mine that i am hoping will be helpful to you, but something i am not comfortable sharing here. until then...~hugs~ please continue to share your feelings with us and let us help you.