Hi Goodgirl, I would have responded sooner but I ended up not seeing your post. Let me be another voice telling you to have hope. And, it’s almost a cliché to say nowadays but the best ones come when you aren’t looking. So don’t be afraid to give up. I actually do it on a regular basis, well, about as regular as someone at my age had time to experiance. I tend to find someone special, have a good time and it ends (unless it’s “the one”) and than I spend some time feeling much the same as you do now and than eventually I search some more end up back at the default position I prefer to be in, not caring. Basically, “given up.” It is depressing “giving up” but its part of the process that works for me.

I’m currently feeling shitty about the loss of someone special to me and waiting ‘till I go back to being fully me. I’m not sure if others go though this same thing or not, of if it’s just me but I suspect that it happens a lot. It’s in our biology to be more or less happy individuals it seems. People get over losses of the ones closest to us and people who have been kidnapped even sympathies with their captors when their mind has had enough of feeling fearful for so long. As far as I see it it’s the same process that drives both effects. Anyway, this has all been a long drawn-out late-night and maybe TMI way of saying that you’re gonna be OK.

Oh. and every person special in my life has always come when I wasn’t looking. I’m not gonna tell you that you’re young and have plenty of time because I know that offers no solace. There are doms out there who just want to play and others who want LTRs, just as there are vanilla men who just want to fuck and others who want something more.

I’ll end it there. Take care!