Who Really Has the Power in a DS Relationship?

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Nobody has any power in a DS relationship.

Hmm I think many D/s relationships are just an extreme of any male/female relationship in so far that the female chooses. The male might decline her, the male might make the approach but it is the female who has the real power. She sends out the signals to the males that she is looking for a partner. It is her that is the prize all the males want and she tends to know it. Anthropologists have recognized this for a long time. It is the exception that tends to prove the rule. Look at the personal ads, it is almost always the males that are on the hunt, the female just has to sit, wait and choose. I suspect when a female sub puts an ad in the personals she is inundated with would be suitors. One can't take the biological imperartive out of the equation. Getting back on subject with D/s relationships, it is far easier for a female sub to find a male Dom than it is for a male Dom to find a female sub. The female sub gives away her power in the understanding the male Dom keeps his part of the bargain, should he stray over the boundary his prize is took away. In that situation the power might appear to be shared because of the consensus involved but the real power is held by one or the other and that is the one less committed which according to antropologists is usually the childless female. It is becoming recognized now that women are more likely to infidelities than men. It is women that control the amount of hetrosexual sex that goes on, if it was men that controled sex you wouldn't be able to go on a bus without witnessing some fornicating going on.

Antropologists also a recognize a power exchange between males and females as the female passes child bearing age. The female becoming less attractive to the male but the older male would need to be successful enough to attract the younger female so it's ones social position and success is also important. I remember my ex talking about this once at her work where the older females (hmm I'm talking about women approaching 40 ish here. Still young to me I admit) who had careers and wanting children finding it particularly difficult to find commited male partners willing to make the investment in them. The males prefering to find a woman a generation younger. I'm sure this all translates into BDSM relationships somehow since we do not exist in isolation but I'm starting to lose track of my thoughts.

I suspect it is even something similar between male subs and female Doms. As for gay and lesbian relationships I am completely ignorant.

I think there is something in there of value but I'm not sure anymore now I've written it. Maybe those evening lectures I attended at the City Uni were a waste of time after all.