Quote Originally Posted by Ranai
Nobody has any power in a DS relationship.
Seems to me that consensual sex is defined by the passive member. While the aggressor might initate the encounter, all sex is validated as consensual by the passive participant.

It's not a question of power; it's a dance, and while someone leads it, two parties have to agree to dance for it to work right. It's a cooperation of roles that compliment each other.