Finally...thank you TG Sir, for explaining all this! I already knew most of it, but seeing it written down and explained in detail,....well it just sort of makes things so much more clear! It also lets me know that the man I have thought of as my Dom is anything but! Communication you say?? Hah! He doesn't know the meaning of the word! He and I never talk anymore. We talked alot in the beginning and we talk when I am with him, but that's it! I get an occasional text message and that's all. The last time we had a scene where sex was actually involved was November...yes...No-fricking-vember!! I saw him once in December, but that was for his pleasure, which I don't have a problem with....if I'm going to be called soon for more play time! But he puts me off with his excuse of work. I very much admire his work ethic, and right now he is opening up a new business in another state and he will move there, so he has been very busy. And I have been very patient. He finally wanted me to come to him about two weeks ago. He asked late in the evening, and I had a class the next morning and then 12 hours of work after that. So I declined. I didn't want to, but I knew most of my time would be spent driving to and back from his home. Maybe I'm selfish, but school and my job are important to me! He was angry or dissapointed (who knows which as all we did was text message each other!!!). Now it has been two more weeks and I got one lousy text message from him Saturday evening. I have written him e-mails and told him I feel that we should end this. I told him that I come here to learn and he was totally pissed over that. He feels that other Doms will try to "pick me up"! LOL Yea right! Anyway he said thats why people come to these forums and that pissed me off...I have made friends here that I think the world of and he thinks I'm screwing around! So TG Sir, what do you think?? After reading your article I feel it is time to let go....although it will be very difficult as he is my first r/l Dom. I don't even want to think about looking for someone else though...not right now. I guess I will be celibate for a while longer!!