Quote Originally Posted by Ranai
Nobody has any power in a DS relationship.

Whatever is done is done in agreement. The relationship and interaction is based on the freedom of both partners.
Yes, but it is the submissive that ultimately has the final decision in every process of each phase of the relationship. Without the consent of the submissive, the contract is not negotiated. On her safeword, the scene stops. Etc.

It is the submissive that has the power to effect the relationship the most.

And yes, whatever is done is done with the agreemewnt of both partners. But as long as the submissive has the final say-so in matters which require her consent, then the ultimate "power" lies with her. For without her agreement and consent, nothing the dominant dreams up, whether it be rules, discipline, or scene ideas, comes to life.