Quote Originally Posted by spirit
Personally, i think it depends upon the two who are involved and what works for them. Neither side is right or wrong, just different.
I agree with this, actually. As long as relationship elements are negotiated properly and fairly, then each person should have the relationship they want.

In writing these articles, I'm not trying to write a list of commandments on stone tablets. Rather, I am offering information from my point of view that might help those less informed and less knowledgeable. I'm all for the open negotiation and satisfactory management of any relationship, as long as the relationship is healthy, informed, and caring.

Quote Originally Posted by spirit
For instance... if i was sceneing with someone in a club, i would NOT give up complete control. However, if it were with someone that i had a relationship with and the trust and love were there...then it would be different. The way i see it, each relationship is different, each with different levels of control.
This is something that has not yet been discussed by any of us here. The differences between the LTR and the one-night scene at the club. Obviously, in these situations, there isn't really much time for limit negotiations and in-depth interviews, but one the same note, these scenes tend to not be as in-depth as the ones held in LTRs.

This might make another beautiful idea for a thread. I nominate spirit to type it up.