Quote Originally Posted by Sir_Russell View Post
Rabbit1, I am sorry for disagreeing with, well maybe not, but I think you failed to read or understand what I was saying.

Course maybe you have never put anyone into sub-space deeply enough that they are unable to use their safe-word. It is a problem that I have and have learned that safe words aren't all they are supposed to be. This may depend on the sub/slave and the level of trust they have for me, but to say that safe words are the end all tells me a good bit about you.

my friend I did not say they were the end ---but for a newbie I feel it is the way to go ---and if a sub is in sub-space then no or stop will not be uttered that is the level of trust and known comfort levels between and experienced dom and an experienced sub ---not many newbie subs are going into deep sub space ----

we do agree safety is a big issue and to be careful ---that is enough for me

we are all trying to help a new sub in our own way ----

and yes by all means be careful picking a Dom ----there are alot of want to be Dom on this board ---who want nothing but a web cam sex show ---and when they are done they drop you like a hot potatoe -----they should be concerned about you and your comfort levels ----bring you in slowly ----
I wonder about the ones that the first thing they want is to see you naked before trying to get to know you ----and it happens ---I get emails and PMs every day from subs this happens to

now you see that maybe different Doms do things differently and that is OK just as long as they have your safety in mind