[rant] OMG parents!

[Hime]

Responding to NatalieD -- yeah, I had a collar that I wore as a fashion accessory before I even knew what BDSM was. If I see someone wearing a collar with a relatively punky outfit, I don't assume that they're into BDSM, just that they're goth or punk. Now, if I saw someone wearing it with a lavender twinset I might think twice.

Hell, I wish some of the guys I meet at clubs would assume that it meant something. Like, I dunno, maybe TAKEN?!

As to whether my parents know anything about what it means, my mom did say something like "It's ok, we know you're not *really* a dominatrix or anything." Which doesn't exactly sound well-informed.

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Hell, I wish some of the guys I meet at clubs would assume that it meant something. Like, I dunno, maybe TAKEN?!

LOL well, a wedding ring should do that job equally well but I know many men who are blind to them (whereas women can detect them even when you are wearing gloves over it ) so even men who are aware of what it means may not realise it is there simply because they are men and there is no known cure...

I wouldn't let what your father did bother you too much. I think it is partly because he is seeing you as leaving him now that you are married and it is hard for him. He will do things like this for a short while then things should settle down a bit once he gets used to the idea of you being married. He was wrong to do it but he may not realise that he was wrong.