Quote Originally Posted by emi herself View Post
I am a 24/7 Sub,but I have horrible Self esteem and confidence. Which I belive stems from my many years of bad relationships and troubled childhood. Sometimes its so bad I dont want to leave our house or even work, because I dont want anyone looking at me. I become a hermit of sorts.

To clear up how bad it is :
I think im ugly
stupid
fat
good for nothing
waste of time
I think everyone is better than me
horrible girl,mother,sister,friend,wife to be
I wont let friends over
I even become suicidal...


My Master/husband to be is wonderful and tells me all the time how wonderful and beautiful I am. That its all in my head. That he loves me more than anything, he also has me look things up online and read into it as much as possible to help me out. But it doesnt seem to be enough and I really rather not see a shrink.Which I might just have to.

So I was wondering if any subs (and or Masters)on here have the same problem. If so how do/did you deal with it? What helped and didnt help?
What can my Master do to help me through bad days?

Im just ready to be happy with myself.
There are a lot of things that can be said... most of which I'm sure you've heard in one form or another... all trying to bolster the sagging self image of yourself. Whether brought on by parents, prior partners, or just a series of circumstances that over the years have torn your self respect apart, it's all irrelevent.

I'm going to answer this from the sole perspective of a dom.

Consider what I highlighted in red. If you were my submissive I would find that statement highly insulting. In fact, let me ask you do you think your master has such horrible taste and sense that he would pick someone who is in fact:

ugly
stupid
fat
good for nothing
and a waste of his time?

And why would you want to be with someone who has so little sense?

The point which I'm making is that once you look at the flip side (and stop insulting your master's good taste) you will suddenly see yourself as the cherished prize he no doubt considers you to be.

You just have to trust him in this matter as you do when you submit to him in other matters.