emi & thrall,
I feel I gotta step in here!
I ask you this, with reference to the fat, stooopid, ugly remarks....

You both have doms that must love & cherish you both, you must have jobs etc thus you are neither stooopid or ugly.

My sub, used to have these kind of issues and I asked her this question.

1) Do you really beleive in your heart not your head that your partners wouldn't be with you if they thought the same way???

Again none of your deep down issues are very real.

2) I also asked my sub, who else do you really have to impress???

I feel that you both really show some deep down courage to bring it to a forum like this, and I dip my hat to you both.

Look at it this way, things are really not as bad as you think.

If you can look up, you can get up! I personally am super proud of you both and I don't even know you!