Not much for me to add here, except to reiterate the idea of communication and caution. I know the idea of a stranger being harsh with you is attractive, but how do you know you can trust a stranger? Do you really want to trust yourself to the whims of someone you do not know? Fantasy is one thing, but reality often comes with a price. There are a few fantasies I have that would never be brought to fruition because I know that there is a difference.

Safe Sane Consensual (SSC) is a concept that has been drilled into me from my earliest explorations into BDSM, and it is still a code that I live by. It has helped to keep me out of legal difficulties, and my partners from getting seriously hurt, even when something went wrong. I have had friends end up in the ER because even practicing SSC, sometimes people get hurt.

Do you really want to take the risk of being hurt with someone who is a stranger? Or would you prefer to do that with your husband?