Unable to convince.........

[sassycat4him]

I just wanted to Thank you all for your very helpful advice. I understand about the "sub frenzy" thing and realize that I really need to take it slow. I will talk to hubby again, soon about my desires b/c they are driving me CRAZY! I also think it's a good idea to introduce him to this site. We both have a lot of learning to do. If I were to be hurt, accidentally, I would definately want it done by him. at least he knows most of my limits.

[jeanne]

If I were to be hurt, accidentally, I would definately want it done by him.

I agree. Here's something I said to my husband that really made a difference: "Anything that happens between us when we are in "BDSM mode" is okay. If I get hurt (in a way I don't like ), I will tell you, either immediately if it's really bad or the next day. I won't get mad or hold on to resentment."

I had to repeat this to him several times over the course of a few months, but now he believes me and has become much more comfortable delivering pain and being strict and demanding. I think he was afraid that I would turn back into a "wife" with all the negative connotations of that word!