Rosie,

I'd be freaked out, too. Anger/revenge has no place in the bedroom or the playroom.

That type of payback behavior doesn't belong in a marriage, d/s play, or anywhere else with someone you sleep with and share you life and home.

Great advice has been given.

TG's questions may be tough to ask yourself, but you should take a moment to honestly answer them.

If you want to continue, then I second the talk and find out what's going on before you play , if ever, with him again.

Loving BDSM or sex play is not about payback. As your top/dom he's got a lot of responsiblity to care for you and your needs. If he can't handle the responsiblity, then don't play with him.

Do your best to educate him & get him to educate himself on what you're seeking. If he doesn't want or understand how to play safe, sane and consensual, then do what you need to do to protect yourself.

Anyone want to suggest some good articles and links for Rosie? TG's written lots on these forums. You may want to pick a few you like and review them with the hubby as part of you ongoing education process with him.

To your success and a safe loving partner,

Ruby