I am looking for a little advice here, please. Although I have been married for years, it's only lately my husband has agreed to try BDSM. He told me recently, that the last time we played, he whipped me intentionally to hurt, because, "He wanted to get back at me." At the time, I wasn't even aware that I had done anything wrong, and his admission kind of freaked me out.

What will he do next time he's mad at me? Now, I don't know what to do. Under normal circumstances I do trust him; he isn't violent and doesn't have a temper - but I'm nervous about allowing him to tie me up or do anything more serious.

Any suggestions, please?