Orgasm Control- The In's and Out's

[nk_lion]

Tessa, a suggestion, why don't you propose orgasm control to Daredevil, and tell him he can control the intervals between each one, for an hour, day, or perhaps maybe a month

[tessa]

Tessa, a suggestion, why don't you propose orgasm control to Daredevil, and tell him he can control the intervals between each one, for an hour, day, or perhaps maybe a month

NO thanks, nk. But how "wonderful" of you to think of such.

~huggles~

The right dom... one who's paying attention.

You said that just the way it needed to be said.

Now to the question...

tessa

Your orgasm is your most intimate expression of your sexuality, your sensuality. When you give yourself in service to a dom, what better way for him to express himself, than by taking full control of your gift to him.

All else is a by product.

Pleasure for the dom to use that control in a myriad of ways.
Pleasure for the sub to be so well used.

There is no better way. No better way to express it, control it or have it controlled. And your insight allows me to create a whole new "file" for something I already thought I knew all about. Can't wait to get to the filing. A most moanful answer, Oz. I do appreciate your words here.

jeanne? Hell only freezes over up there where it's too freakin cold. Come back down here where it's warm, we'll find some hell near a beach somewhere and we can go skinny-dippin.

I'm learning something here, people. Oh, stop with the gasps of surprise.

This is good learning. Thanks!

[Ozme52]

You said that just the way it needed to be said.


There is no better way. No better way to express it, control it or have it controlled. And your insight allows me to create a whole new "file" for something I already thought I knew all about. Can't wait to get to the filing. A most moanful answer, Oz. I do appreciate your words here.

So tessa... does that mean I win the prize? I get to 'do' jeanne?

[tessa]

So tessa... does that mean I win the prize? I get to 'do' jeanne?

(Just to keep those eyes of hers wide open and that luscious mouth slightly parted...ok, a lot parted)

Sure, Oz. You get to "do" jeanne. I mean, that's what she intimated to me (I just said I was kidding and she just said she didn't really say such a thing 'cause of the contest rules and all). So it's not like you need my permission for the go ahead...or the go behind, for that matter. The prize is yours (and oh, what a prize she is).

I really am bad. But so are you, Oz. I'm in grand company.

She's gonna kill me dead. Yes, she is.

Eh, she'll torture me first, so it's all good.

[Ozme52]

Eh, she'll torture me first, so it's all good.

Maybe we'll undertake to do that together...

[tessa]

Eh, she'll torture me first, so it's all good

Maybe we'll undertake to do that together...

Well, there's my hell right there! No need to go looking for it. Although I was wanting to visit the beach...

But for double the torture, yep, I'll toss the beach notion. And for me, that's saying something.

Woohoo!

She's still gonna kill me.

[gagged_Louise]

Maybe we'll undertake to do that together...

You should ask moptop rather than jeanne to assist in this Oz, she has a definite switch streak.

[tessa]

Now how did this turn into "torture tessa" time??

Oh yeah, I'm bad. That's how.

~sneaks out before it gets crazy~

[moptop]

You should ask moptop rather than jeanne to assist in this Oz, she has a definite switch streak.

Thanks, Louise! Yes, and I'm looking for more practice. Ladies... feel free to visit me. My doors are open. And no doubt various other things as well.

I totally agree with Louise that Tessa is coming up a soft limit here - after all, in the previous thread, she managed to go as far as getting her master to come along and say he wouldn't use cum restriction - but she opens up this thread all on her ownsome - of course, you can give control of your orgasms without cum restriction cumming into the affair! Orgasm overload, Tessa?

As to the question... orgasm control. It is not specifically about denial or permission. It is not specifically about restriction, or over-load. It is not about on-demand, on-command. It is all of those things, but the fundamental thing is - your orgasms belong to him (or her). You give that control over to him/her, as their most fundamental and basic right of ownership.

The actual practice of it all - well, it doesn't happen just like that, no - not for me, anyway. I mean, some people may find they can cum on demand with no effort at all - I am no-where near that! Especially if previously much denied, like rach. You plateau, and getting yourself off that plateau can be hard.

Oz - you said it was about 'the right dom... one who's paying attention'. That makes me think that the permission thing (or maybe at least during the training stage) is actually about the dom saying yes, when it is inevitable or necessary anyway - not quite sure what I'm thinking there - yes, the dom needs to know the sub well enough to know when she's going to get to that plateau, I suppose. Don't know - further detail on what you're paying attention to would be great?

Some people may find that in a scene they can hand over that control quite happily, but out of a scene it is a real struggle: they are not supposed to make themselves cum without his/her presence, for example - and find they just can't resist a play...

Some people may find cum restriction drives them totally bonkers, especially with teasing, and they can't cope with it for very long (break down or cave in and break the rule).

Etc etc...

I am still breaking the rules - oh my, am I ever... in serious trouble right now, in fact. Nevertheless, I am proud that he wishes to own my orgasms and control this most basic and beautiful part of me. I give them to him willingly, except... the flesh is weak.