Quote Originally Posted by cadence View Post

I have a question about the sub asking permission to orgasm.
I understand the training and the reasoning of orgasm control, so I also understand the reasoning behind asking permission.
I was just curious as to when permission is granted or when it is denied. Is it part of a certain process, or is it determined by the mood of the Dominant, or how well a sub can beg for it.

I personally do not like begging, but then again I am not used to it, and find it to be a bit embarassing. I would not even want to ask if I could have an orgasm, I would be nervous to do so, I would probably feel that I had failed something somehow.

Sorry if I hijacked this thread a bit.
cadence

First do you have any idea how many subs feel just that way, begging is against what we have been trained to do all our lives. Many find that being begged is embarrassing a type of manipulation by the person begging.

Second, Oz stated a an obvious truism that it seems most subs didn't "get". You stated one also that most Doms don't get. So thank you for that.

I hope that Oz and mine comments will help you to know that it isn't failure but success to beg your Dom which will please him very much and, this may shock you too, make him very proud of you and being your Dom. There is nothing else that does that quite like begging.

I have said to all of the sub/slaves that have promised themselves to me that they can get anything they want for me if they go about it correctly. The happiest ones learn that kneeling in front of me and begging sweetly for what they want would only be refused if her request was harmful to her or us.

Can you learn how to beg, yes you can everyone knows how, and begging for a climax when you know it is required is the way to start. I would advise your Master to punish you for each climax you have without permission and for that matter to refuse even the simpliest request if you don't beg him. This training should only be done in private but must be done for each of you to really be M/s.

I don't understand how the power exchange can be complete until this is done, and once you have, excuse the term, mastered it both of you will live the life you want.

Russell